Trendsetter or Motivator?
“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved” – George Sand
Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For certain people, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfilment and pure happiness. However, some prefer the life alone. Why? Perhaps they have been through too much heartache, and the thought of going through yet another failed relationship is too much to bear. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish.
Relationship has always been a positive mechanism- a motivator. In Jamison. L. Ganong’s journal, “Journal of Social and Personal Relationships”, it was stated that relationship is “a key to motivate the comforts of an intimate relationship while maintaining a high degree of personal control over one's involvement and commitment”. When we are in doubts or in trouble, we tend to look for our love ones for comfort. On the other hand, there are also people who are in a relationship for a different reason. According to the article ‘Why the “Relationship goals” trend needs to end.’ written by Leila Bangash it stated that, “We are obsessed with showing off on social media, vying to be the perfect couple that everybody envies”.
Being in a relationship, means being in love with someone who accepts you- accepts your true colours, your specialty and even your flaws, hence feeling insecure wouldn’t be a problem because you'll internalize your partner’s positive judgments of you, this show that having a relationship will bring positive impact towards a person. To those who are in a relationship they tend to be happier, though, nowadays some people are in a relationship with no affection to their partner, this is because they are afraid to be alone and they are too paranoid of the consequences, easier said – afraid of commitment. According to the article “The art of being single” written by Lauren Mackler, mentioned that “Aloneness is still associated with all kinds of negative emotions - loneliness, depression and feelings of being 'a loser'.” Hence being single means being alone which then would lead to depression.
“Loneliness is my worst enemy,”
However, the evolutionary history of human romantic love may have progressed along the following lines. Back in the years, people look for a partner to live a long loving relationship, having a family of their own, and sharing that happiness with the people they love, but nowadays, the trend “Relationship goals” have becomes a distraction of what being in love really means. Certain couples get together for the sake of updating their statuses, for some people, being single might lead them to an unhappy life, seeing their friends being in a relationship distracts them from the real meaning of happiness.
As a conclusion, people are in a relationship for so many reasons, either to be motivated or to follow the trend, as Leila Bangash stated in her article “Aim to find someone who genuinely loves you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated.” Because being in relationship should be something meaningful and to motivate us, not just for the sake of updating our statuses.